Rwanda: 1st Impressions

We’ll get to the gorillas later, and the Golden Monkeys and the chimpanzees and the mangabeys and the Colobuses… Colobi?… I want to start with the people.

Rwanda has another horror story to be filed under “If it happened to them, it could happen to you,” like the story of Nazi Germany.  I recommend you google and read a thorough account of the Rwandan Genocide of 1994.  It’s difficult to wrap the mind around.  500,000 – 1,000,000 Rwandans were slaughtered by their fellow citizens in 3 months.  It’s a story of favoritism, propaganda, paranoia, xenophobia, and pack mentality.  Also mass insanity and almost indescribable blood-lust.

It happened.  It was horrific.  But the beauty of the story is Rwanda today.  The perpetrators ~ les genocidaires ~ who fled the country in fear were forcibly repatriated.  The worst stood trial and were sentenced.  But the rest were expected to rejoin society, to be Rwandan with the rest of the nation.  It was too expensive and pointless to attempt to punish everyone who participated.  People live and work, side by side, with those who put the machete to their parents, siblings, and children.  It was only twenty years ago.

Right now Rwanda is a shining star in Africa.  President Kagame’s emphasis on communication and education, in conjunction with international aid, is building Rwanda for the future.  The monthly day of service (clean up) for all citizens in the capitol builds community and pride.  They are constantly sweeping and mopping homes and businesses to keep the dirt streets’ dust at bay.  The national ban on plastic shopping bags makes a remarkable difference in the cleanliness of the land.  Perhaps those awful decaying bags which festoon the trees and fences in other emerging countries are gateway garbage.  It’s noticeable.  Trash stands out rather than composing the background.  Rwanda is clean.  Maybe cleanliness is indeed next to godliness.  The genocide drew acute attention to this country over the chronic needs of its neighbors.  Christian organizations do tremendous amounts of good work.  Rwandans see them as the ones who come to stay, to really help.  The desire to thrive in peace is so very evident, businesses from hair salons to guest houses called Peace in both English and Kinyarwanda are in every town.  While there is plenty of sittin’ around, watchin’ the day go by, the roads are lined with people, everywhere, walking somewhere, pushing heavily laden bicycles or carrying burdens up on their heads.  Curiously, bicycles are strictly for boys and men while top o’ the head carrying is almost exclusively a thing done by girls and women.  Out of necessity, their posture is amazing.  I’m thinking of taking it up myself, as if the locals in my own town don’t stare enough already.

The people we met were invariably friendly and curious.  Also beautiful, strikingly so.  The underwater hockey team, which our friend started in Kigali, was so tickled to have us turn out to practice with them.  Those big, bright smiles will stay with me forever.  The students at our friend’s school were like teenagers anywhere, yet maturely focused on their precious opportunity to go abroad for university and bring that education back to Rwanda.  The national language was changed from French ~left by colonial Belgium~ to English in order to prepare for interaction with the larger world.

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Currently, Rwanda is lead by a … strict father in President Kagame.  Some would use less generous descriptors for his style.  But he has accomplished great things for the country and the people when such leadership was necessary.  Of course more freedom is good ~I’m American, after all~ but they needed that leadership then and may need it still.  It would break my heart to see this growing, emerging, beautiful civilization fall to ruin if put into gentler hands too soon.

Into the Mist

She is a hero to me.  Obviously not for being a loner, a so-called racist ~I suspect she was just a misanthrope~ or possibly mad (some would say I’m well on my way to all of these myself), but for having found her calling and giving her whole being to it.  She made a world of difference.  This world, our world, has mountain gorillas surviving in it only because Dian Fossey lived for them.  Died for them.

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Ms. Fossey told her story in the book Gorillas in the Mist, which was made into a compelling movie starring Sigourney Weaver.  I watched it again recently.  It’s heart-breaking and shameful how close we came to destroying them.  They still exist on the razor’s edge.

But now, almost 30 years later, Rwanda values its gorillas just as they are, wild and free.  Tourism is allowed, tightly controlled, and expensive.  Each family group is visited by one small group of tourists daily.  For one hour, no more.  The traditional naming ceremony of human children ~Kwita Izina~ is performed annually, publicly, and officially sanctioned, for each new gorilla infant born in the wild.  In 2014, there were 18.  Represented by a human child in costume, the infant is introduced to the citizenry and named.  The psychology of this is profound.  It takes gorillas from being distant creatures, with no greater purpose than exploitation through poaching and sale, to individual beings… with names… living in families like our own.  And the children who stand-in for the young gorillas, symbolically bearing those names?  Woe betide the poacher who wants to butcher their gorillas.

We are going to meet some of those gorillas this month, in their wild home.  Ms. Fossey gave them a second chance when they were doomed.  Their numbers have doubled since the 1980s, but 880 mountain gorillas aren’t many at all.  Poaching still happens.  Diseases ravage.  Their rain forest home is eaten away by “progress” and its by-products.  I am honored to have the privilege to see them now, while there is still hope for them.  And if we can manage to share the world with them, maybe there is hope for us as well.

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Carefully Taught

There is a family I want to highlight because the little girl is already so compassionate and non-judgmental that she will certainly grow into an amazing adult and probably do remarkable things.  I doubt she would ever point and ask What’s wrong with that man? or turn away from a disfigured face or hate people simply because they’re different.  She is learning to see the heart of an individual and to love without regard to appearance.

There is so much hate, violence, and dehumanization burning in this world.  You can say it’s culture and history and poverty and huge and a juggernaut and institutionalized and irreparable and unstoppable.  But a child must be carefully taught.*  What if they weren’t?  What if a generation said, Enough!  Most of the atrocities committed by humanity are done by individuals following someone else.  Why can we not raise sons and daughters to stop following horrible people? Maybe it’s too complicated or too far outside my experience to understand, but I follow a man who lived in one of these historically “troubled” lands.  He has been described like this:

A radical, non-violent, revolutionary who hung around with lepers, hookers, and crooks; wasn’t American and never spoke English; was anti-wealth, anti-death penalty, anti-public prayer; but was never anti-gay, never mentioned abortion or birth control, never called the poor lazy, never justified torture, never fought for tax cuts for the wealthiest Nazarenes, never asked a leper for a copay; and was a long-haired, brown-skinned, homeless, community-organizing anti-slut-shaming middle eastern Jew    (~John Fugelsang)

Maybe it’s a stretch from a little girl who kisses her faceless cat (yes, Chase is hard to look at the first time, but she’s not in pain and has lived 9 years like this with her wonderful family) to the man Jesus to an outbreak of peace in humanity.  But change will never begin with those who already have the power.  There must be a better way than passing it from those who had the most guns to those who have the biggest rockets.  Society must change; that change can only begin with the character of the individual members of it.  Every one of us.

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*You’ve got to be taught to hate and fear,
You’ve got to be taught from year to year,
It’s got to be drummed in your dear little ear,
You’ve got to be carefully taught.
You’ve got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a diff’rent shade,
You’ve got to be carefully taught.
You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You’ve got to be carefully taught.
 

We’ve made some progress since Rodgers&Hammerstein penned this in 1949, but not nearly enough.  I’m afraid it’s as true and as sad as ever, even with a catchy tune.

More Stories From the 19th Century

Recently I wrote about the warm-fuzzy quaintness of it all, sun-dried linens and doctors’ house calls.  But there are two sides to every coin.

This first story is laughable only because it ends well (and didn’t happen to me), being a scenario of such jaw-dropping conceit as to leave one bug-eyed and gaping.  It took seven years of semi-annual pilgrimages to a Florentine criminal court, criminal not civil, to resolve the matter, but in the end wisdom and reason won out.  My friend was acquitted of the felony.  Huzzah!  He is not in danger of losing his job, as he could have been.  Sounds quite serious, no?  To begin with, my friend did not do the thing of which he was accused.  Although no one in the civilized world would have blamed him.  If you were riding your bike in a reasonable manner and were struck by an automobile, mightn’t you disparage the driver, his character, and possibly his ancestry?  Fortunately, the complaint included direct quotes in the local ~and antiquated~ dialect, which my English friend would not have had the personal wherewithal to utter in the most composed of circumstances.  Dear Reader, do not suppose my mind is wandering.  I did say felony, yes?  Yes.  To insult a man’s honor is a felony in Italy.  Full stop. <reflect on this for a moment>

The second story is tragic.  It is also quite disturbing because it begins with the most common and joyful scenario in the world:  birth.  A friend, an Italian, younger than we, smart and modern, was married a few years ago.  They were expecting their first child, first two in fact.  They would have twins.  The babies were delivered by caesarian section, not an unusual procedure.  I entered the world in the same fashion over forty years ago with a mother nearly forty years old herself.  But this was in an Italian hospital, in the north even.  One month later, our friend’s young wife and new mother died from septicemia resulting from the operation.

It’s such a shock that I have no words.  Except to honor her life and his loss, to anyone who believes that living here is a gelato-filled dream, I tell you everyone has troubles, but it’s a real kick in the teeth if you believe we’re beyond those of the Victorian Age.

Strength & Beauty

We are complex creatures of spirit, mind, and body.  To neglect any part is to impoverish the whole.  To ask less than full participation is to miss out on some of the blessings in this life.

What a disgrace it is for a man to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable. ~ Socrates

ESPN’s Body Issue 2014 is out.  The athletes are tastefully photographed to showcase the beauty and strength of their bodies.  Yes, nekkid.  Probably NSFW.  They are professionals; physical fitness is their stock-in-trade.  Yet, even these, in their days of perfection, are still very different shapes.

His body, that’s what Socrates said.  No one else’s.  I am barely an athlete, and only because I play a team sport for fun.  But even I, 46 – Housewife, want to be good at what I’ve chosen to do.  So I work harder to be stronger, faster, better.  Not more than anyone else is, only more than I was yesterday.  Then, when I experience success, I am in touch with that strength and beauty of which Socrates speaks, my own.

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